Manifesto: On Authenticity

How do you answer that ubiquitous and often innocuous question from friends and strangers, “How are you?”

Do you give more than a glib and expected answer? Delve into how you truly are at that moment and possibly share the bad along with the good? Whether because of time constraints or social norms, most of us rarely do.

It’s something I’ve been pondering a lot lately as I talk and share about personal brand  - mine and others. If being authentic is at the heart of a brand that resonates and forms strong bonds, how far should we go in living an authentic life both online and offline? Is it showing and sharing the good, bad and ugly at all times? Or is it a choice we make per circumstance, per situation and with perception in mind? Is the soft underbelly that is exposed when we get to sharing vulnerabilities and fears a positive attribute or one that exposes you beyond your control?

Because with taking risks comes the chance of failure. With trusting others comes the chance of betrayal. With taking leaps comes the chance at falling. With putting yourself out there comes the chance of rejection. With taking big bets comes the chance of getting knocked on your…(you get the picture.)

And when those circumstances occur should they be cloaked in bravado or shared in raw truth – or somewhere in the middle? What is the perfect formula, that magical authenticity balance between confidence and vulnerability?

As you might imagine by this series of questions, my mind is often a chaotic place. To gain clarity, I turn often to words from the witty and wise – poets and thinkers, authors and speakers. Thanks to Brene, Ernest and ee for these words that keep my mind moving and my synapses firing.






  1. clark krause says:

    have you ever asked: “How are you?” and got the answer: “I am scared”, or “I am sad”, or “Full of anxiety”. I think answering the question of how you really feel in the moment would shock most of us, however I cant help but think that we would feel less alone, less scared, less anxiety, less acts of suicide and that we would help each other more. I would bet that there would ultimately be more connectivity and sense of belonging amongst us, and that doesn’t sound too bad at all. Asking for help…. we could all use some. Letting someone give you some help is ultimately a gift to that other person’s life.

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